Being Single is not a Curse!

Our perspective of being single and being married is hilarious. Single people are dying to get married and married people are wishing they were still single! Either life is wonderful with God and miserable without him. Some equate single to being lonely. If you think you’re lonely now, wait until you are married. Having a husband does not cure loneliness, it magnifies it. It’s a miserable thing to have a mate that doesn’t make you their priority. You are hungry for all this ATTENTION from the man you’re married to and you don’t get it…..deal with your loneliness first. Only God can fill your void. But here are some amazing things about being single!

  1. Single people, you can come and go without answering to anyone. (I’m running to the store, be right back!)
  2. You can spend your money on anything you want without “Making a decision together.”
  3. You can come home from work and not have to worry about cooking for anyone. (Thank God for Zaxby’s lol)
  4. You don’t have to deal with another personality or mood swings, and trying to please somebody else. .
  5. You can lay out prostrate in the Lord, uninterrupted in any room of your house at any given time (Unless of course, you have children šŸ˜) Mommy, why is your door locked? lol
  6. You can travel where you want! (If you have time off)
  7. You can live where you want! (eeny meeny miny moe)
  8. You can hang out with your girls all night long. As a matter of fact, you can have sleepovers and watch chick flicks like Baggage Claim, Just Wright, and Mother’s Day while eating a bunch of unnecessary calories! (From my lips to my hips, yay!!)

But seriously, singleness is what you make it to be. It can be amazing or it can me miserable! Enjoy it to the fullest because if you don’t, you will find yourself being one of those married people looking back at your single life, wishing you were single again. Being Single is not a curse, it’s a blessing! And once you master the art of singleness, you will move on to the ministry of marriage. Then you will want me to blog, “Being married is not a Curse!” Just kidding. All smiles and have a Happy Friday!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

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Girl, If I Were You…..

psalm-1Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

Where do you get your advice from? Have you ever had a situation so messed up that you had to talk to somebody about it? Of course, we all have. The issue comes when we are talking to ungodly people with ungodly advice. I am reminded of a time I was waiting on God to save my husband. One of the sisters in the church said, “I couldn’t be you, I would have left him a long time ago.” OK, wait a minute. That doesn’t sound like faith or God. There were a few things wrong with what she said.

  1. If my desire is to see my husband saved, anything you speak contrary to that does not come from God. I am standing on his promises and his word!
  2. God hates divorce, so why would you encourage me to leave him? God can fix any marriage with a little bit of faith and a whole lot of patience.
  3. You are not me and you are not in my shoes, so you don’t know what you would do if you were me. Everyone reacts differently in their situation, one can only speak for them self.

We have to be careful of the advice we get from people. In this case I didn’t even ask any advice from her, she just started asking me questions and felt like telling me her opinion in the matter. Be careful of people who start asking you about your business. Everyone doesn’t mean you well.

  1. Any time people offer you advice that goes against the word of God, you should walk away.
  2. If they are offering you advice that didn’t work in their life, don’t attempt it in yours.
  3. And remember this, misery loves company. Some people just want you to be as miserable as they are, so they want you to be in the same predicament they are in.

Stop following the counsel of the ungodly and start following Christ. He is the only one who will bring you to an expected end full of hope, joy, and everlasting life. Sometimes we just need to walk out the situations we are in and let them mature us. If he brings us out of everything meant to grow us, we will forever remainĀ babes in Christ, with Ā no power! Seek God first and everything else will be added! He will even add godly people to your life who can give you godly advice when necessary. Position yourself around people who will speak life into you. If someone’s advice or so-called encouragement leaves you in a state of confusion, defeat, and bitterness, you just got hoodwinked! That was sent from the enemy. God is not the author of confusion. Rebuke every word planted, pull it out by the root and close your ears to the person speaking in your life. Believe me, you will be much better off!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

The Way Things Turn Out

WiwSometimes your situation is not the best, but if you change how you look at it you’d be surprised how good you can feel bout it. You have power over your thoughts, your emotions, and your life feels. Stand on the promises of God and let the worst situations bring out the best in you.

Be encouraged.

T Brown

What Is Your Signature Dish?

signature-dish-lamb-shankHow many food connoisseurs do we have out there? There is nothing like a delicious meal at a classy restaurant. And don’t forget the “Signature Dish.” But what exactly is a signature dish and what does it have to do with me? Just go with me for a second.

A signature dish is a recipe that identifies an individual chef. Ideally it should be unique and allow an informed gastronome to name the chef in a blind tasting. It can be thought of as the culinary equivalent of an artist finding their own style, or an author finding their own voice.

Now keep that in mind as I bring this over to your character traits. Is their something about you that will identify you every time. When a rumor surfaces, will people say, “Yes, that sounds like her” or, “No, that is not her character.” When drama shows up, do you find your name in the middle of it? When someone is down, are you the personĀ known to encourage and lift their spirits up? Ā 

One thing I have learned over the years is that your character will follow you wherever you go. You can change jobs, schools, churches, cars, and even friends, but you will always be remembered by your “Signature Dish.” You can’t be responsible for what people say about you because perception is not always reality and some people just like to lie. All you can do is be consistent in who you are, what you stand for, and what you do.

When you come around, you should leave an essence about you that remind people that you were there. When a situation arises, your character should name you before your action ever does. If a story is being told without using names, people should immediately identify which character you are. Sit down and reevaluate your life and situations you have encountered. Whether you left a good taste or a bad taste, you left something behind. Regardless of what is said about you, what will people remember about you? Do you have the dish that people will want to come back for or the dish that will turn people away? Tweak your character a little more. Remove some of the salt and vinegar and add a little sugar and honey or vice versa.Ā It is never too late to reinvent your signature dish. Just remember, whether it tastes good or bad, your “Signature Dish” will identify you.

Be encouraged and Happy Friday!

T Brown