Single Women! Married Women! Unequally Yolked!

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Being unequally yolked can be one of the hardest relationships you will ever be in. Single women are waiting on a true man of God. Married women are waiting on their husbands to get saved. The whole process can be so frustrating. I wrote this book to inspire people all over the world. There are some biblical principals that will not only give you the strength, but give you the wisdom to walk out the emotional roller coaster of an unequally yolked marriage. It also gives insight to the single woman on what to expect if she marries an unsaved man. It is so much better to wait on God for the right man for you. This book is nothing but real. You need to add this to your library and bless a friend with a copy too. Help me get the word out so others can be inspired too.

Get your copy today! You can purchase it on any of these websites, just click on the links. Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Westbow Press

“This book gives a wonderful, transparent view of the first years of marriage despite the details of your unique marriage. I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my marriage. I felt some of the same emotions and had some of the same thoughts however my husband and I were both believers but I still remember having most of the same thoughts and emotions. I chose to hold on!
Thank you for being transparent in your experience and sharing! So many times we think that we are the only one going through tough times and that it is unnatural but by sharing your experience many will be able to relate and will be able to make a clear choice to hold on!
This is a great bridal shower gift or a newlywed.” ~Kacey Ferguson

Thank you for supporting the vision to inspire and empower women everywhere. Please share this, favorite it, like it, re-blog it…Help me spread the word! Be encouraged! And don’t forget to get your copy today!

T Brown

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Being Single is not a Curse!

Our perspective of being single and being married is hilarious. Single people are dying to get married and married people are wishing they were still single! Either life is wonderful with God and miserable without him. Some equate single to being lonely. If you think you’re lonely now, wait until you are married. Having a husband does not cure loneliness, it magnifies it. It’s a miserable thing to have a mate that doesn’t make you their priority. You are hungry for all this ATTENTION from the man you’re married to and you don’t get it…..deal with your loneliness first. Only God can fill your void. But here are some amazing things about being single!

  1. Single people, you can come and go without answering to anyone. (I’m running to the store, be right back!)
  2. You can spend your money on anything you want without “Making a decision together.”
  3. You can come home from work and not have to worry about cooking for anyone. (Thank God for Zaxby’s lol)
  4. You don’t have to deal with another personality or mood swings, and trying to please somebody else. .
  5. You can lay out prostrate in the Lord, uninterrupted in any room of your house at any given time (Unless of course, you have children šŸ˜) Mommy, why is your door locked? lol
  6. You can travel where you want! (If you have time off)
  7. You can live where you want! (eeny meeny miny moe)
  8. You can hang out with your girls all night long. As a matter of fact, you can have sleepovers and watch chick flicks like Baggage Claim, Just Wright, and Mother’s Day while eating a bunch of unnecessary calories! (From my lips to my hips, yay!!)

But seriously, singleness is what you make it to be. It can be amazing or it can me miserable! Enjoy it to the fullest because if you don’t, you will find yourself being one of those married people looking back at your single life, wishing you were single again. Being Single is not a curse, it’s a blessing! And once you master the art of singleness, you will move on to the ministry of marriage. Then you will want me to blog, “Being married is not a Curse!” Just kidding. All smiles and have a Happy Friday!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Getting Ready For Marriage?

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This quote really grabbed my attention. As you all know, the Women in the Waiting ministry originated from my experience of being unequally yoked. Back in the day, we were a hot mess. We suffered a lot of losses, pain and grief because of who we were before Christ. I wouldn’t dare want my sons or daughter to be anything like we were. It was the grace of God that saved us, and saved our marriage. “23 Years!” Ā All of you single ladies and gentlemen have a choice. You do not have to go through some of the drama that those ahead of you have gone through. Here are a few things to think about as you are on your journey to the married life.

  1. Have a committed relationship to the Lord. If you do not fully submit to the will of God, you will not fully submit to your spouse. You will want things your way and be very self serving.
  2. Remember that who you decide to marry is your decision only. People can offer you great advice, but they will not be the one who wakes up with the person you say I do to, you will. Make sure it is your decision.
  3. Preparation for marriage does not begin when you get engaged. You should already be looking like a wife, walking like a wife, and talking like a wife. The Bible says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor. If you still look like you are available, you may attract a man, but not necessarily your husband.
  4. Surround yourself with couples who have successful marriages, that can plug a nugget in here and there. There are many biblical principles that will work for every marriage. However, different people respond to situations in different ways. Get some insight that may prepare you for marriage and then use the tools to figure out what may or may not work for you. Once again, every marriage is different.
  5. Don’t marry just for love. Love runs out. Feelings change. There truly is a thin line between love and hate. Love alone is not enough to get married. There also needs to be purpose and commitment. Your spouse should be able to walk with you, and support you as the two of you fulfill your purpose together.
  6. There is no such thing as “the one” You will spend the rest of your life looking for “the one” when all you need to do as let God send “the right one” for you. God won’t make you marry anyone. We have free will. But he will guide you along the way. Ā Let him lead you.
  7. Relationships are work. If you have to work really hard to get along before you get married…you will work overtime to keep the marriage. Common decency towards one another should come naturally. If it is hard for them to treat you right, give it some thought.
  8. There should be some common interests. If there are certain things that you absolutely love and they can’t stand, you need to be okay with that if you pursue a future together.
  9. You need to know what your deal breakers and your boundaries are before they come along. If your boundary is “no house visits”, that should be respected. People who have no respect for your boundaries have no respect for you…and vice versa. If your deal breaker is him not wanting kids, don’t compromise. If you want children wait on the one God sends you who wants them as well.
  10. There should be respect being shown on both sides. If your mate belittles you, threatens you, tries to control you, blames you for his/her mistakes…that is a serious red flag!
  11. If you can’t be honest with the person you are seeing, you may have personal issues. If the person makes you feel uncomfortable being you and being honest about your life, that might be a red flag.
  12. Lastly, like the quote says….don’t marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son like him. That is a good thought because chances are, if you have children…they may be like the person you marry.

Wait on the Lord and again I say wait. If you want to be married, prepare yourself to be married. And while you wait, make God your number one and keep him as your number one even after the husband or the wife comes. Two plus God can last forever.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

“A Real Man” vs “A Good Man” vs “A Godly Man”

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I have read so many quotes, cliche’s, and descriptions about what a real man is and is not. I’ve read what a real man will and won’t do. It’s no wonder the single women are still single. What you are looking for is non-existent. You don’t need a real man, or even a good man, but you need a godly man.

Definition of real-Ā actually existing as a thing or occurring in fact; not imagined or supposed

A real man is merely a human being who actually exists. Being that he is human, he will make mistakes. He will some times make you cry with or without knowing he did. He will say things out of anger. He will say things out of love. He will hold you and comfort you, yet he will also want his own space. He will find you attractive and he will find other women attractive as well. He will get up and go to work or may want to sit around and play video games all day. He has all the male organs and may want to use them on you and and somebody else. A real man has fathered some children that he may or may not take care of. He could be hardworking or he could be a bum. This man is real. This man exists. But just because he is real and in existence doesn’t mean he is the man for you.

Then, we have the “Good Man.” The good man may or may not have had a good upbringing. But he has decided that he won’t ever treat his lady or his children like he and his mother were treated, unless he had a good example. He may open doors for you and even pull out your chair. He will be sure to provide for you. A good man will accept you and your children. A good man may very well want to sleep with you. After all, he is a man. A good man may even want to move in with you and help you pay your bills, or ask you to move in with him. A good man will even pump your gas and wash your car, and he is not afraid of getting his hands dirty. But he may also like to have an occasional beer or two. He might be a good man, but it doesn’t necessarily mean he is a saved man. This good man may still like the club scene every now and then. This good man may even cuss and still go to church. He is the one who you will try to justify his sin because at least he is in the church. He will make sure he is good to you and to your family. A good man is very affectionate and gives you the companionship you need. He usually has his own house and car and just needs the right woman to share it with. This man is the one most women are willing to settle for. And it is your choice if you want to settle for this good man. But you don’t need a real man or a good man, you need a godly man.

The “Godly Man” first loves the Lord which enables him to love you too. He doesn’t just attend church, but he understands that he is the church. This godly man is living in a holy manner. He doesn’t just quote the scriptures, but he studies them and applies them to his life. He is not a wolf in sheep clothing. Many times you will mistake a good man for this godly man. But the distinct difference is that he bears the fruit of the spirit. He doesn’t cuss, drink, club, fornicate, or do any of these compromising things. This godly man loves to worship. He is the one who will pray for you when you are sick. He is the one who will kiss your tears away when you are feeling down. He is the one who will provide for you and still find ways to show you how much he loves you. A godly man will not try to sleep with you. He will want to marry you and make you his wife. A godly man is not perfect, and he will also make mistakes. But he will right his wrongs and ask forgiveness as he walks out his journey. He may even make you cry, but he will also make it right. A godly man leads his family on a path of righteousness. He is strong enough to handle a strong woman, and yet gentle enough to finesse her emotions. A godly man has his moments of weakness, but he knows how to call on Jesus for help. A godly man will defend his family from spiritual attacks as well as natural opposition. He is a warrior. He is a friend. He is a lover. He is a father. He is real. He is good. And he does exist. So stop thinking that a “Real Man” is supposed to be perfect. You won’t ever find the perfect man. And stop thinking that the man for you is living contrary to the word and yet still in church. That is not for you. Stop wasting time looking for a man and start looking for the Father, who already has the right man for you. And the next time you are thinking about being with a real man or settling for a good man, why not wait on God to give you a real, good, godly man! He is out there let him find you! #Happy Friday #WomenintheWaiting

Prov 18:22Ā Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Be encouraged!

T Brown