Single Women! Married Women! Unequally Yolked!

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Being unequally yolked can be one of the hardest relationships you will ever be in. Single women are waiting on a true man of God. Married women are waiting on their husbands to get saved. The whole process can be so frustrating. I wrote this book to inspire people all over the world. There are some biblical principals that will not only give you the strength, but give you the wisdom to walk out the emotional roller coaster of an unequally yolked marriage. It also gives insight to the single woman on what to expect if she marries an unsaved man. It is so much better to wait on God for the right man for you. This book is nothing but real. You need to add this to your library and bless a friend with a copy too. Help me get the word out so others can be inspired too.

Get your copy today! You can purchase it on any of these websites, just click on the links. Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Westbow Press

“This book gives a wonderful, transparent view of the first years of marriage despite the details of your unique marriage. I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my marriage. I felt some of the same emotions and had some of the same thoughts however my husband and I were both believers but I still remember having most of the same thoughts and emotions. I chose to hold on!
Thank you for being transparent in your experience and sharing! So many times we think that we are the only one going through tough times and that it is unnatural but by sharing your experience many will be able to relate and will be able to make a clear choice to hold on!
This is a great bridal shower gift or a newlywed.” ~Kacey Ferguson

Thank you for supporting the vision to inspire and empower women everywhere. Please share this, favorite it, like it, re-blog it…Help me spread the word! Be encouraged! And don’t forget to get your copy today!

T Brown

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Getting Ready For Marriage?

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This quote really grabbed my attention. As you all know, the Women in the Waiting ministry originated from my experience of being unequally yoked. Back in the day, we were a hot mess. We suffered a lot of losses, pain and grief because of who we were before Christ. I wouldn’t dare want my sons or daughter to be anything like we were. It was the grace of God that saved us, and saved our marriage. “23 Years!”  All of you single ladies and gentlemen have a choice. You do not have to go through some of the drama that those ahead of you have gone through. Here are a few things to think about as you are on your journey to the married life.

  1. Have a committed relationship to the Lord. If you do not fully submit to the will of God, you will not fully submit to your spouse. You will want things your way and be very self serving.
  2. Remember that who you decide to marry is your decision only. People can offer you great advice, but they will not be the one who wakes up with the person you say I do to, you will. Make sure it is your decision.
  3. Preparation for marriage does not begin when you get engaged. You should already be looking like a wife, walking like a wife, and talking like a wife. The Bible says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor. If you still look like you are available, you may attract a man, but not necessarily your husband.
  4. Surround yourself with couples who have successful marriages, that can plug a nugget in here and there. There are many biblical principles that will work for every marriage. However, different people respond to situations in different ways. Get some insight that may prepare you for marriage and then use the tools to figure out what may or may not work for you. Once again, every marriage is different.
  5. Don’t marry just for love. Love runs out. Feelings change. There truly is a thin line between love and hate. Love alone is not enough to get married. There also needs to be purpose and commitment. Your spouse should be able to walk with you, and support you as the two of you fulfill your purpose together.
  6. There is no such thing as “the one” You will spend the rest of your life looking for “the one” when all you need to do as let God send “the right one” for you. God won’t make you marry anyone. We have free will. But he will guide you along the way.  Let him lead you.
  7. Relationships are work. If you have to work really hard to get along before you get married…you will work overtime to keep the marriage. Common decency towards one another should come naturally. If it is hard for them to treat you right, give it some thought.
  8. There should be some common interests. If there are certain things that you absolutely love and they can’t stand, you need to be okay with that if you pursue a future together.
  9. You need to know what your deal breakers and your boundaries are before they come along. If your boundary is “no house visits”, that should be respected. People who have no respect for your boundaries have no respect for you…and vice versa. If your deal breaker is him not wanting kids, don’t compromise. If you want children wait on the one God sends you who wants them as well.
  10. There should be respect being shown on both sides. If your mate belittles you, threatens you, tries to control you, blames you for his/her mistakes…that is a serious red flag!
  11. If you can’t be honest with the person you are seeing, you may have personal issues. If the person makes you feel uncomfortable being you and being honest about your life, that might be a red flag.
  12. Lastly, like the quote says….don’t marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son like him. That is a good thought because chances are, if you have children…they may be like the person you marry.

Wait on the Lord and again I say wait. If you want to be married, prepare yourself to be married. And while you wait, make God your number one and keep him as your number one even after the husband or the wife comes. Two plus God can last forever.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Wednesday! Worth Day!

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It’s Wednesday! Worth Day! I was wondering what value have you placed on your life? Have you limited the blessings you are entitled to? Have you blocked certain avenues that should be open in your life? God values us as his children. His love is not based on whether we are saved. He sent his son just to prove how much he loves us and wants us to be in fellowship with him. We are worth every thing God has for us. We choose to devalue our lives.

We are the ones who are so impatient that we are willing to accept a man who is married and claim he will be our husband after the divorce. We are the ones who are willing to be toyed with by a player who is out with two or three other side chicks. We are the ones who choose to remain a side chick instead of being the only wife. We are the ones who limit who God can use to speak into our lives because we don’t want to hear the truth. We are the ones who choose the sin we are tempted with over the escape we can be rescued with. We are the ones who are willing to accept anything that was better than the last thing, even though it’s not what God wants for us.

We don’t value ourselves the way God does. We don’t believe in ourselves the way God does. We don’t see ourselves the way God does. If we did, we would respect and honor ourselves the way God does. Don’t try to rush God into blessing you. Sometimes he will give you want you want instead of what you’re worth. Have patience and serve until he produces your blessing. Today is Wednesday, worth day! Are you worth waiting for? And are you waiting for what you are worth?

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Why Do We Hold Grudges?

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Why do we hold grudges? We have been fooled into believing if we don’t forgive, we are the ones in control. When in fact, the situation is holding you captive. You remain stuck in a scenario that has already passed. Most of the time, the party involved has moved on and don’t even realize you are still angry. Then, it makes you angrier to see them living a happy life while you are still miserable holding your grudge. Free yourself from bondage today. Even if the person does not know you are angry, forgive them anyway. When we don’t forgive we hinder our own prayers. It is no wonder some of the things we pray for never get answered.

Matt 11:25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

There it is! Ask God to heal your heart if you have been wronged. Forgive those and love them in spite of how they treat you. You may need to put some distance between you, but you still can show love. Forgiving does not mean what they said or did was okay. It just frees you from being held up in your life.


As long as we live, we will be offended. We will be rejected. We will be misunderstood. We will be disrespected. We will be lied on and talked about. But as long as we live, we can also forgive. Don’t let people control the outcome of your prayers and your life. You make the difference by letting go of the offense. Release it today. I pray God will grant you the grace sufficient to cover the hurt. I pray for your deliverance and that you will have a peaceful rest tonight. Ask the Lord to forgive you for holding a grudge, as you forgive your offender right now, in the mighty name of Jesus!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Bad Day, Bad Life? or Great Day, Great Life!

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No one really breaks life down by the day. We usually have long weeks, busy months and then some. But if you think about it, your life is made up of every day that you live. Why spend an entire day depressed and crying? If you do, eventually your life will become a sad and depressed life. If you wake up with joy and thanks for life, health, and strength, your joyful day will become a joyful life. Choose how you will live your life by changing how you spend your days. Think about what you will do today and how you choose to act and react to situations. Today could literally be the beginning of the best days of a better life. You have a choice! So, have a great day and especially a great life!

Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:

Be encouraged,

T Broown

Get-A-Way!

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There are may reasons why people plan get-a-ways and vacations. There are also different meanings and expectations for what one should do on a vacation. Some are adventurous and love the thrill of white water rafting and skiing. Some love the arts and museums. Some like a good dinner and show. But as for me, I just want to relax. At home I always have a schedule. I have to be here or there at this time or that time. There is always something to do and something to be responsible for. I realize, while I am on vacation right now, I like the freedom to do absolutely nothing. If I fall asleep, I fall asleep. If I want to go shop, I go. But I don’t have to be anywhere unless I choose to. If you live a life full of demands, then maybe you should take a little time for yourself, too. You may want to go scuba diving or swimming in a pool. Whatever is going to make you happy is what you should do. Free yourself from your daily stresses. It will make a healthier you! So, whether you take 2 days, a week, or two weeks make sure you find what relaxes you.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

It’s Okay To Relax

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The next time something bad happens in your life, immediately ask yourself, “What can I do to fix it?” If there is something within your reach and within your power to fix the situation, then by all means do it. If there is nothing you can do, just smile. Look up to heaven and say, “Lord, there is nothing I can do about it, but I know you can.” Thank him and go on with the rest of your day. It is perfectly okay to be at peace when the situation dictates that you should flip out. Decide to have a peaceful day. Find some time to relax while God is working on your behalf.

Be encouraged,

T Brown