Being Single is not a Curse!

Our perspective of being single and being married is hilarious. Single people are dying to get married and married people are wishing they were still single! Either life is wonderful with God and miserable without him. Some equate single to being lonely. If you think you’re lonely now, wait until you are married. Having a husband does not cure loneliness, it magnifies it. It’s a miserable thing to have a mate that doesn’t make you their priority. You are hungry for all this ATTENTION from the man you’re married to and you don’t get it…..deal with your loneliness first. Only God can fill your void. But here are some amazing things about being single!

  1. Single people, you can come and go without answering to anyone. (I’m running to the store, be right back!)
  2. You can spend your money on anything you want without “Making a decision together.”
  3. You can come home from work and not have to worry about cooking for anyone. (Thank God for Zaxby’s lol)
  4. You don’t have to deal with another personality or mood swings, and trying to please somebody else. .
  5. You can lay out prostrate in the Lord, uninterrupted in any room of your house at any given time (Unless of course, you have children šŸ˜) Mommy, why is your door locked? lol
  6. You can travel where you want! (If you have time off)
  7. You can live where you want! (eeny meeny miny moe)
  8. You can hang out with your girls all night long. As a matter of fact, you can have sleepovers and watch chick flicks like Baggage Claim, Just Wright, and Mother’s Day while eating a bunch of unnecessary calories! (From my lips to my hips, yay!!)

But seriously, singleness is what you make it to be. It can be amazing or it can me miserable! Enjoy it to the fullest because if you don’t, you will find yourself being one of those married people looking back at your single life, wishing you were single again. Being Single is not a curse, it’s a blessing! And once you master the art of singleness, you will move on to the ministry of marriage. Then you will want me to blog, “Being married is not a Curse!” Just kidding. All smiles and have a Happy Friday!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

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Girl, If I Were You…..

psalm-1Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

Where do you get your advice from? Have you ever had a situation so messed up that you had to talk to somebody about it? Of course, we all have. The issue comes when we are talking to ungodly people with ungodly advice. I am reminded of a time I was waiting on God to save my husband. One of the sisters in the church said, “I couldn’t be you, I would have left him a long time ago.” OK, wait a minute. That doesn’t sound like faith or God. There were a few things wrong with what she said.

  1. If my desire is to see my husband saved, anything you speak contrary to that does not come from God. I am standing on his promises and his word!
  2. God hates divorce, so why would you encourage me to leave him? God can fix any marriage with a little bit of faith and a whole lot of patience.
  3. You are not me and you are not in my shoes, so you don’t know what you would do if you were me. Everyone reacts differently in their situation, one can only speak for them self.

We have to be careful of the advice we get from people. In this case I didn’t even ask any advice from her, she just started asking me questions and felt like telling me her opinion in the matter. Be careful of people who start asking you about your business. Everyone doesn’t mean you well.

  1. Any time people offer you advice that goes against the word of God, you should walk away.
  2. If they are offering you advice that didn’t work in their life, don’t attempt it in yours.
  3. And remember this, misery loves company. Some people just want you to be as miserable as they are, so they want you to be in the same predicament they are in.

Stop following the counsel of the ungodly and start following Christ. He is the only one who will bring you to an expected end full of hope, joy, and everlasting life. Sometimes we just need to walk out the situations we are in and let them mature us. If he brings us out of everything meant to grow us, we will forever remainĀ babes in Christ, with Ā no power! Seek God first and everything else will be added! He will even add godly people to your life who can give you godly advice when necessary. Position yourself around people who will speak life into you. If someone’s advice or so-called encouragement leaves you in a state of confusion, defeat, and bitterness, you just got hoodwinked! That was sent from the enemy. God is not the author of confusion. Rebuke every word planted, pull it out by the root and close your ears to the person speaking in your life. Believe me, you will be much better off!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

A Sunday Prayer

God, I don’t have all the answers. God, sometimes I just don’t have a clue what to say or do. The only thing I am sure of is, you know. I don’t want to spend my time trying to figure out things and events that aren’t meant for me to understand. I do want to spend my time getting to know you, who understands everything. Please guide my heart, my mind, and my footsteps in every way. I am grateful Ā for my life. I am grateful for the opportunity to serve you. And, I am grateful for your plan for me. As long as you have a plan, I will never be lost. I am found in you and I am ever so grateful! Lord I thank you.Ā Make this your prayer today and find your strength in the Lord. He knows everything.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Life Lessons

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We live better when we can appreciate everything and everyone who contributes something to our lives. Life is a journey full of lessons to be taught and learned. What have you learned from the people who have come and gone in your life? Everyone who walks out of your life is not necessarily a bad person and weren’t necessarily meant to leave. Some people leave because of Ā how you treat them. We have a hard time looking in the mirror and owning our part in failed relationships. Everyone who stays in your life is not necessarily on your side, either. Sometimes they are the Judas that pushes you right into your destiny. The betrayal hurts so bad, but in the end, the victory will be sweeter than honey. We will never be able to figure this whole thing out, but we can live in the now and learn as we go. Whether your lessons are meant to be painful, painless or priceless, let them teach you what you need to learn. #LifeLessons

Be encouraged,

T Brown

 

 

 

Hey You!

What are you doing?! People are moving on with their life and you are still in the dumps about an old situation. It is time to forgive and move on. I know you have heard it a million times before, not forgiving means they have power over you. You have a choice in some things and you can choose who you allow to affect your life. You were miserable while they were a part of your life and now that that they are no longer a factor, you are still miserable. Something is not adding up. If you keep thinking about them and it brings you down, they are still influencing you. Focus on the direction you are headed, forward. Forgiving them doesn’t mean you agree with what they have done, it just means you are wise enough to realize it is unhealthy to hold on to the pain. It is time to start walking in victory. It is time to be healed and be free. If you are affected by people who are in your life on the regular basis, like family members, pray for them. I am a believer of the power of God through prayer. He can save the unsavable and change the unchangeable. He is God and there is nothing too hard for him. You may not be able to control their actions, but you can certainly control yours. Turn them over to God, pray and believe! Be healed in the name of Jesus and be free from your past. Today is a new day.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

There She Is!

There is nothing more fulfilling than being you and being happy about who you are! So often we spend our days trying to figure out who we are because we have become what we do. Take a moment to strip yourself of all the things you do and all the positions you fill, and ask yourself, “Who am I?” When no one is around, are you laid back? Are you high energy? Do you like being by yourself? Do you enjoy crowds? What makes you happy when there is no one pulling on you? Once you find out who this person is, introduce her to the world. Yes, she has flaws. Yes, she can be a little quirky. She may be a little shy or even a bit outspoken. When she shows up, embrace her. Then you can begin to find out what God says about her. He loves her just the way she is. And since he is the creator, whatever he finds that is broken, he can fix it! Stop trying to be everything for everyone, and just try being you. The world will either love you are hate you, but the only one who matters is God. Believe me when I tell you this, he loves you!Ā 

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Psalm 73:26 My flesh and my heart faileth but….

How many times have we heard, “Get out of your feelings?” Our feelings will fail us every time. We get angry and blow up. We get sad and go into depression. We get frustrated and give up. There is no victory in our flesh. As Psalms tells us, our flesh and heart will fail, BUT GOD! Who needs a “BUT GOD” this morning? God is the strength of your heart. When you look back at situations and can’t figure out how you survived that one, know that it was only because of God. He is your portion. Portion is not the whole thing, it’s a part. He is the missing parts in your life. Let him fill the void and be your strength. You are guaranteed to be made whole. We will all have down times in our life, but we have to choose to experience them in a better way. So, get your day started with a “portion” of God. You need a portion here, a portion there, after a while you will be filled with his love, joy, peace and all of the wonderful attributes of who he is. I hope this encouraged someone today.

Be encourage,

T Brown