Being Single is not a Curse!

Our perspective of being single and being married is hilarious. Single people are dying to get married and married people are wishing they were still single! Either life is wonderful with God and miserable without him. Some equate single to being lonely. If you think you’re lonely now, wait until you are married. Having a husband does not cure loneliness, it magnifies it. It’s a miserable thing to have a mate that doesn’t make you their priority. You are hungry for all this ATTENTION from the man you’re married to and you don’t get it…..deal with your loneliness first. Only God can fill your void. But here are some amazing things about being single!

  1. Single people, you can come and go without answering to anyone. (I’m running to the store, be right back!)
  2. You can spend your money on anything you want without “Making a decision together.”
  3. You can come home from work and not have to worry about cooking for anyone. (Thank God for Zaxby’s lol)
  4. You don’t have to deal with another personality or mood swings, and trying to please somebody else. .
  5. You can lay out prostrate in the Lord, uninterrupted in any room of your house at any given time (Unless of course, you have children šŸ˜) Mommy, why is your door locked? lol
  6. You can travel where you want! (If you have time off)
  7. You can live where you want! (eeny meeny miny moe)
  8. You can hang out with your girls all night long. As a matter of fact, you can have sleepovers and watch chick flicks like Baggage Claim, Just Wright, and Mother’s Day while eating a bunch of unnecessary calories! (From my lips to my hips, yay!!)

But seriously, singleness is what you make it to be. It can be amazing or it can me miserable! Enjoy it to the fullest because if you don’t, you will find yourself being one of those married people looking back at your single life, wishing you were single again. Being Single is not a curse, it’s a blessing! And once you master the art of singleness, you will move on to the ministry of marriage. Then you will want me to blog, “Being married is not a Curse!” Just kidding. All smiles and have a Happy Friday!

Be encouraged,

T Brown

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Truth in Love

John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking everyone that agrees with us and are willing to lie to us, loves us. Lying does not equal love. We also believe that people who tell us ugly truths hate us and are not trustworthy. Truth does not equal hate.

Eph 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ.

God is love and he is truth. He desires that we grow up into him through the word of truth. He doesn’t want us to be unstable being tossed to and fro. Whoever he loves he chastens. When kings were in error in the old testament, God would send a prophet to warn them. Eph 4 teaches us that he placed certain gifts in the body to help perfect the saints. I’d rather have people who are willing to risk the relationship to free my soul than to lie to me and watch me go down a road of destruction.

Prov 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

We all have people in our lives who care enough to be honest. It hurts up front but heals later. When the enemy tells you what you want to hear, it feels good up front then it steals, kills, and destroys your life. That kiss from the enemy is designed to deceive you. It feels so good you begin to detest and hate truth and anyone who brings truth including God and his word. 2 Thess 811 tells us that Satan comes with power, signs, and lying wonders, deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish…. if they refuse to receive the love of the truth, he will send a delusion that they should believe a lie.

Who really wants to believe the lies of Satan? You didn’t like it when your boss lied. You didn’t like it when your ex lied. So why do you like it when Satan lies to you? It is better to have an honest friend in your corner than a lying enemy. Be thankful for the truthful people God has placed in your life. They desire to see you grow up into Christ. Learn to agree to disagree, but don’t let deception creep in and tell you that God’s truth is a lie. 

Be encouraged, 

T Brown

Getting Ready For Marriage?

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This quote really grabbed my attention. As you all know, the Women in the Waiting ministry originated from my experience of being unequally yoked. Back in the day, we were a hot mess. We suffered a lot of losses, pain and grief because of who we were before Christ. I wouldn’t dare want my sons or daughter to be anything like we were. It was the grace of God that saved us, and saved our marriage. “23 Years!” Ā All of you single ladies and gentlemen have a choice. You do not have to go through some of the drama that those ahead of you have gone through. Here are a few things to think about as you are on your journey to the married life.

  1. Have a committed relationship to the Lord. If you do not fully submit to the will of God, you will not fully submit to your spouse. You will want things your way and be very self serving.
  2. Remember that who you decide to marry is your decision only. People can offer you great advice, but they will not be the one who wakes up with the person you say I do to, you will. Make sure it is your decision.
  3. Preparation for marriage does not begin when you get engaged. You should already be looking like a wife, walking like a wife, and talking like a wife. The Bible says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor. If you still look like you are available, you may attract a man, but not necessarily your husband.
  4. Surround yourself with couples who have successful marriages, that can plug a nugget in here and there. There are many biblical principles that will work for every marriage. However, different people respond to situations in different ways. Get some insight that may prepare you for marriage and then use the tools to figure out what may or may not work for you. Once again, every marriage is different.
  5. Don’t marry just for love. Love runs out. Feelings change. There truly is a thin line between love and hate. Love alone is not enough to get married. There also needs to be purpose and commitment. Your spouse should be able to walk with you, and support you as the two of you fulfill your purpose together.
  6. There is no such thing as “the one” You will spend the rest of your life looking for “the one” when all you need to do as let God send “the right one” for you. God won’t make you marry anyone. We have free will. But he will guide you along the way. Ā Let him lead you.
  7. Relationships are work. If you have to work really hard to get along before you get married…you will work overtime to keep the marriage. Common decency towards one another should come naturally. If it is hard for them to treat you right, give it some thought.
  8. There should be some common interests. If there are certain things that you absolutely love and they can’t stand, you need to be okay with that if you pursue a future together.
  9. You need to know what your deal breakers and your boundaries are before they come along. If your boundary is “no house visits”, that should be respected. People who have no respect for your boundaries have no respect for you…and vice versa. If your deal breaker is him not wanting kids, don’t compromise. If you want children wait on the one God sends you who wants them as well.
  10. There should be respect being shown on both sides. If your mate belittles you, threatens you, tries to control you, blames you for his/her mistakes…that is a serious red flag!
  11. If you can’t be honest with the person you are seeing, you may have personal issues. If the person makes you feel uncomfortable being you and being honest about your life, that might be a red flag.
  12. Lastly, like the quote says….don’t marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son like him. That is a good thought because chances are, if you have children…they may be like the person you marry.

Wait on the Lord and again I say wait. If you want to be married, prepare yourself to be married. And while you wait, make God your number one and keep him as your number one even after the husband or the wife comes. Two plus God can last forever.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Heal My Heart Lord

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On this journey, you may have encountered a magnitude of disappointing things. As a protection mechanism, you have set up walls. Your loving heart may have become a heart of stone. Ā Everyone can see the the anger and the frustration, but they don’t know the story behind what you may be feeling right now. God desires to heal you from all hurt, disappointment, and bitterness. He is not asking you to open up to the world. He is just asking you to let him in. It is okay to admit your fears, anger, and frustration. It is okay to cry when it hurts. One mistake we make is trying to deny our feelings and look super strong, when in fact, we are weak and broken. In order to heal, you must feel! Talk about your feelings with someone who will build you up. Let God know exactly how you feel. After you have honestly dealt with your feelings, forgive. Now you are ready to start healing. As a start pray this simple prayer:

Lord I forgive those who have wronged me, as I ask you to forgive me of all of my wrongdoings. Lord I pray for a new heart and a new spirit. I am free from all condemnation, guilt, and chains from my past. I am loosed from the bonds of wickedness and defeat. I receive a new heart and a new spirit. I am moving forward and trusting you to keep me every step of the way. Lord I thank you for my new heart and my new outlook on life. By faith, it is done, in Jesus name! Amen.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

Monday Morning MotivationĀ 

I wanted to share this from the prayer call this morning:

1 John 4:1-4 enlightens us about the spirits of this world. Christian’s will face opposition, spiritual attacks, temptations, trials, false prophets, and the spirit of antichrist. As believers, we carry something far greater than anything we may face. BECAUSE greater is on the inside, we have overcome what is outside! It is not enough to have Christ on the inside, you must exercise the authority he has given you to overcome! Greater is he that is in you, so go out and overcome! #Iovercome #greaterishe #becauseofGod #bfmic